This video is a bit different than the stuff that I usually talk about, but I thought it was important to share it with people. Over the years, I’ve seen a lot of guys get sucked into relationships with women who are straight up abusive, and “crazy” in a very sinister way. These guys wind up getting their self-esteem destroyed, their lives thrown off track, and often find themselves bitter and resentful towards women at the end of their ordeal.
And even if you may not have met one of these toxic women yet, chances are you WILL come across one of these people in the future. And let me tell you, it’s MUCH better if you already know a little bit about the conditions you’re dealing with.
In this video, you’ll find:
- My personal story of how a toxic relationship led me to the “pickup community”
- The three types of toxic woman that you need to watch out for.
- How to recognize each type.
- How to understand how they work.
- How to get out (short answer: RUN).
When I teach bootcamps, I often talk briefly about these kinds of women, and I ask my students if they sound at all familiar. Usually at least 50% of the guys in the bootcamp have had some sort of awful, traumatic experience that is similar to mine. And the toughest thing is – people often think that the kind of abusive behavior that these women submit you to is somehow normal, that it’s just women being “emotional”, or that YOU must be the abusive one (after all, why would your girlfriend be so upset if you didn’t do SOMETHING to deserve it).
Anyway, if you’ve been involved with one of these women, doing a bit of research into Cluster B Personality Disorders would probably help you make sense of your experience. You need to realize that it’s not your fault, that there was probably nothing you could have done to make the relationship work out better, and that your ex was likely manipulating you in a very deliberate way.
But most importantly, you need to realize that you were dating an outlier. That most women – although they may exhibit a bit of insecurity, a bit of attention seeking behavior, or a bit of narcissism – are adults who respect the people around them. And if they don’t, you don’t want to date them.
Anyway, I recommend the book Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorderfor people who have dealt with someone who has BPD, as I have.
And of course, you need to go out and challenge yourself and make an effort to surround yourself with good, positive people. And that means learning to be outgoing and assertive, because toxic women (and toxic people in general) seek out people who are shy and unassertive.
So let me ask you – who out there has had a run in with one of these women, and how did it go?