How to Pick Up Women in Germany

I just made a video this weekend from Munich, Bavaria, and I wanted to share it. It goes over some of the major differences between how to pick up women in Germany vs other countries such as the US and Canada, where most of the Love Systems instructors are located. In the video I explain a few quick things about …

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This Little Trick is Cheesy but it Works

I spent the past weekend at the Love Systems Superconference, which was amazing as always. We had over 100 students come out to Las Vegas to learn the secrets of picking up, of dating, and of simply being better men. Anyway, I took a break from the mayhem of Super Conference to make a little video revealing one of my …

Chris ShepherdThis Little Trick is Cheesy but it Works
Has Hook Up Culture Killed the Boyfriend

How Many Times Should You Text?

Here’s a question that comes up a lot. You meet a girl somewhere, have a bit of chemistry, and get her number. You text her once, and she doesn’t reply. So now you face the dilemma – How many times should you text her before you give up? The first thing you need to realize is that a lot of …

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A Thousand Tiny Failures

A Thousand Tiny Failures is a Narcissistic Sex Romp (And I like it)

  Sebastian used to have manboobs, but he got them removed and now he’s living it up in Montreal. Unfortunately, his wingman is a cokehead closeted homosexual who likes to pick fights with guys in clubs by kissing them and then accusing them of being homophobes. “What the fuck dude!? Why did you hit me?” “You called me a homophobe” …

Chris ShepherdA Thousand Tiny Failures is a Narcissistic Sex Romp (And I like it)

New Article at

I wrote an article for this week that you may want to check out on the Secret of Attraction: One of the most common questions I get from guys I am teaching is probably the most basic: What are women really attracted to? Let’s be honest, what men are attracted to is pretty straightforward. Guys might differ in their particular …

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What to text a girl.

Knowing what to text a girl in different situations can make a huge difference in your dating life. If you know the right things to text a girl, you can usually turn 60% or more of the numbers they get into dates. But if you do things wrong, you’ll probably find that only about 10% of the phone numbers you …

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Ethical Confidence

Letting go of guilt and shame is an important part of being a confident man. But how do you do that without becoming an asshole?   Aaron was standing by the bar in an upscale pub in Toronto, it was 10:30 and he still hadn’t approached a girl yet. He was sipping a vodka soda (I tell students they can’t …

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Death of the Boyfriend: Redux

One of our good commenters (commentators?) who goes by “A Feminist” wrote an intelligent and thoughtful response to my Death of The Boyfriend post that deserves some front-page attention. I agree with you that people today aren’t necessarily sleeping with a higher quantity of partners, rather just not in bf/gf situations. But I think the “moral outrage” as you call …

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Has Hook Up Culture Killed the Boyfriend

The Death of the Boyfriend

One of the niggling insecurities that I remember having in university was the vague feeling that not only  was everyone working harder than me  and getting better grades than me, but they were also probably having more fun and more sex too.  Turns out I was wrong – people were working harder then me but they were getting the same …

Chris ShepherdThe Death of the Boyfriend