I took some time out of my day yesterday to make a video that addresses a problem that I see all the time with guys.
This is my first real youtube video (the others don’t count), so I picked an issue that has come up on a few bootcamps recently. I noticed this problem with my students and I know that a lot of guys out there face the same problems, so I thought I would talk about it a bit.
You see, a lot of guys, when they get attraction, they don’t know what to do with it. They don’t know (or feel ashamed of) what they really want. Because they don’t know what they want, they can’t take the lead. And attraction disappears.
But it doesn’t have to be that way, in this video I explain the problem and give some simple tips.
You see, deep down, all these problems are psychological, and you need to understand the root of the problem before you can really address the surface issues.
As I explain in the video, you need to always know what you want. If you don’t know what you want – even for a few minutes, attraction starts to fizzle. Attraction is like a shark, it needs to keep moving forward or it dies.
You want her phone number, you want to really get to know her, you want to see her again, you want to kiss her, you want to take her home, you want to go for pizza. It doesn’t matter what you want, but you have to want SOMETHING to keep that energy going.
A lot of guys feel uncomfortable expressing this. They were raised to put others first, and to not be selfish, but that’s left them feeling guilty about asserting their desires. This is especially true when it comes to sexuality, where society has often trained us to see our desires as wrong and bad. Now, at Love Systems we give guys some strategies to get over this (some of our routines and tactics), but these are simply an easy way to practice the underlying skills of being assertive and confident around women.
Anyway, if you’re this kind of guy, who gets interest or attraction from women but then loses it because you don’t know what to do with it, you’ll want to watch this video.
If you appreciate this video – please upvote it, share and comment. If this video gets a lot of interest I’ll be making some more, covering some basics of the Love Systems method. In fact, I’ll probably be doing that anyways, but it’s nice to feel like people have your back.
And as always, go out and USE this advice and tell me how it works!
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