The good people at WGN Morning News interviewed me today on confidence in dating. The video is below the break. It’s quite hard to summarize the kind of stuff we teach at Love Systems into the kinds of short sound-bites that are suitable for a Friday morning news show. Anyway, I tried to summarize some of what [...]
Inner Game Archives
Inner Game in Dating is all about learning to overcome the inner obstacles to creating attraction from women. Fear, anxiety and self-doubt are the enemies, confidence and relaxed competence are the goals. In the end, improving your inner game is the best thing you can do for your love life. Here is an archive of Inner Game related advice, for your reference.
A lot of the time, the problems that men have with women and with game are psychological in nature. I’m not talking about serious psychological problems, but rather psychological blocks, or “sticking points” that even emotionally healthy people have and which prevent them from really using the knowledge and skills that they already have. People who have [...]
I had an interesting discussion on the Postmasculine.com blog that I thought I would bring over here. The question is, do men really need to get in touch with their emotions? I’ve edited and copied the discussion, and my comments are at the bottom. BigLifer There is a Bro Code. It is a good thing. Stop apologizing [...]
Let me ask you something: Did you stick to your New Years Resolutions last year? Do you even remember what they were? Don’t be ashamed, if you’re like most people, chances are you failed to stick to at least SOME of your New Years resolutions. Lets be honest, most people make the same resolutions over and [...]
I remember being nineteen years old in my first week of University when I first heard the advice to “just be confident” when talking to women. Before I started figuring things out for myself, “just be confident” and “just be yourself” were the only two pieces of dating advice that I had ever really gotten, and it [...]
I think it’s really important to distinguish between niceness and kindness. Kindness is a real, positive, desirable trait in a romantic partner. Niceness is just the ability to be inoffensive. Most women who don’t like “nice guys” are perfectly affable toward kind men as a dateable group.
On my first day at the Thai Boxing camp in Chaing Mai, we started by jogging around the neighbourhood a few times, through the gravel roads, mango groves and narrow alleys of Thailand’s second biggest city. It was 35 degrees, and I was badly out of shape after several weeks of sitting on beaches and [...]