Someone asked me today the question: “How can you tell if a guy is going to be good at this game or not?”, and I had to think about it.

I’ve been a Lovesystems and Mystery Method Instructor for a long time now, and I’ve seen pretty much all the top guys here at MM when they were really new. Guys like Cajun, Dahunter and Braddock, who I taught and helped bring into the company, all stood out quite early on as guys with a lot of potential.

The main things I saw in all these guys was a real willingness and eagerness to learn, combined with a good, friendly attitude. All of these guys, right off the bat I liked as students. They were the kind of guys that I could have a beer with and chill out with. A lot of community guys aren’t like that.

So, what’s the point of this post? I don’t really have one. But I guess if you want to be a Mystery Method instructor, or if you just want to get good at this game, you need to learn how to game guys. If you can make a dude in a bar be your friend in 20 minutes, you have what it takes to get a girl’s number in the same amount of time.

This was a question asked on the forum, and I thought I would repost it here.

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Neil Strauss mentioned it in his book called “The Game”.
I always thought it wasn’t true, and I would never become one…

But now I am a social robot. I’m obsessed with game tactics, language patterns and body language. In every conversation I have with people, I will look for IOI’s, try to DHV my value and be very aware of my body language. I can’t think about anything else then being alpha, making up DHV stories and new neg’s. I am always analyzing other people, like they aren’t people anymore, but study objects.

And I’m not the only one. For most guys this isn’t a hobby anymore. It’s life. And when game becomes life, it becomes dangerous. You’ll become good at it, but you have to pay a price for that. Especially the pua’s who started playing the game in their teens. They haven’t experienced all the things in life as an AFC… And I think that is very imported.

And that’s why I decided to quit the community. I will live my life like an AFC. Maybe I won’t fuck every girl on campus, but I will be social in a normal way so I can start a family with someone I really love. Not some random HB10 I analyzed and negged, just to get her attracted to me…

Sounds like you’re taking this too far. Good for you for recognizing it, and taking a step back.

I think one of the mistakes that a lot of guys like yourself make is that they treat the stuff we teach as game itself, and not as a training method to improve your game. If you treat it as a training method, then dropping “game” is really just taking the training wheels off your REAL game.

If you’ve done things right while you were in the community, you’re now more outgoing, confident and socially intelligent than you were before. Women and sex are no longer mysterious and intimidating, and you’ve been surprised at least a few times by how *easy* it actually is to hook up sometimes. Don’t forget that – that’s what your training and hard work earned you.

Now, if you go into your everyday life, and choose to drop all the stuff that you used to practice, don’t fall into your old habits. Take advantage of your confidence…. listen to the intuition that your social intelligence gives you, and when a woman is into you, do what comes naturally, and don’t doubt yourself.

You’ll probably be surprised by how well it goes. But when things go well, don’t rush to the conclusion that dropping the community’s advice is the reason you got better, rather, recognize that the community’s advice got you to where you are today, and now you’ve moved past it.

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Good luck.

Alright,

Identity is something I’ve been teaching my students for quite a while, and my students consistently say that it’s one of their favorite parts of the program. I’m going to give away a little bit of what I teach, because I think it’s important enough to share with you guys.

… I can’t believe I’m doing this.

First off, let me explain what Identity is (in a nutshell). Essentially, if your life were a book, your identity would be the cover. It’s the pretty picture on the front, the title, and the little blub on the back that sums up the story and makes you want to read further. And even though we’ve always been told to “not judge a book by it’s cover”, we all know that we all make judgments like that all the time, it’s just human nature.

Hell, I bought the hardcover version of The Game over the paperback explicitly FOR the sweet cover. And I already knew what was inside!

Anyway, to get back on topic, people judge books by their cover, and pigeon-hole people into stereotypes. Establishing an identity means figuring out which stereotypes we want to play into, and which ones we want to avoid. A solid identity can drastically change your game, and help bring all the loose ends together in your game. It means the difference between women thinking you’re odd and thinking you’re the coolest guy she’s met in weeks – it’s all about the cover.

On my programs, we spend a big part of the third day on identity, and finding out an identity for my students that will mesh with their lifestyle, and “bring it all together”. For example, when I give fashion advice, I don’t just tell guys to dress like me, I cater my advice to each person’s individual identity.