I love the TED lectures – they’re always thought provoking and insightful. This morning, someone sent me this talk from Cindy Gallop, who argues that today’s young men have been exposed to more porn, and earlier, than any other generation.
Like a lot of young men of the internet generation, I was exposed to hard-core pornography well before my first exposure to alcohol or pot, and well before my first real experience with girls. Since I was sixteen, downloading porn has been a lot easier (and cheaper) than buying a gallon of milk. But disproving the fears of many feminists and christian fundamentalists, it hasn’t made me or my generation more disrespectful of women, or violent than generations that have come before us, but to suggest that it hasn’t affected my generation is probably disingenuous.
Personally, I learned pretty early in my teens that porn isn’t a very useful guide for how to actually have sex. There are a lot of sexual positions that look pretty good on TV that are significantly less enjoyable in real life. In the absence of real sex education in schools – it seems like porn is the first place that most men learn about sex.
So, I ask the question – do you think that porn has affected your attitudes towards sex, or your “technique”? Have you learned anything useful, or do you think it may have given you bad habits?
And finally, I thought I would list the top 5 signs you may have some bad influences from porn.
1 – You feel compelled to end off every sexual interaction with a “money shot”
2 – You feel compelled to change positions every 3 minutes for 20 minutes.
3 – You hum bad funk music to yourself.
4 – You think women lust after cable guys.
5 – Your “technique” consists of jackhammering away while keeping suitable lines of sight open at all times.
3 responses so far ↓
1 John Craze // Feb 18, 2010 at 4:05 pm
Dude, good post, I did actually learn something from porn though. It’s called the hook or something.
To pull off the technique, you need to insert your two middle fingers into vagina while keeping your index and little finger outside. Then make the ‘come here’ motion with your fingers(as if you were beckoning someone over to you). You need to be rubbing her her gspot/skene’s gland area. You can actually use a lot of pressure without hurting your girl. It works best when she has been warmed up a good bit first though or mid way through sex when you need a break.
It’s supposed to make her squirt. I’ve never made a girl squirt with it but every girl I’ve ever tried it on has always complimented me on it and a lot of them have cum dam hard from it!
The other is randomly smacking her ass….HARD. I don’t know if girls actually like it, but it’s fucking hilarious!
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2 Xander // Feb 18, 2010 at 6:37 pm
It’s definitely impacted me in untold ways. For example, I was getting gas the other day and before my tank was full I pulled the nozzle out and sprayed the last bits all over my car.
3 Tenmagnet // Feb 19, 2010 at 1:55 pm
Xander – That’s hilarious.
John – The hook is an awesome move – I actually learned it off of Mystery’s Lounge, and called it the pyramid. By forming a little “pyramid” with your index and little finger, you somehow get a lot more leverage than you would with your first two fingers. Plus, the tip of the pyramid usually rests right over the clitoris, giving it a bit of gentle, incidental stimulation.
Didn’t learn that one from porn though – maybe I wasn’t paying attention closely enough.
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