funny that we are talking about this today cuz I just got off the phone with one of these guys, and my whole body is alive. the connection is so powerful. but seriously for the first three months we had only two or three phone conversations, max. we didn’t meet until three months into the connection. and it’s pure MAGIC

for newbies, heck you are right, get on the phone, get out there and meet people, text, email, do a LOT of everything just to get calibrated and connected.

and then at some point you’ll be able to feel each other without saying a word, even if you’re on different sides of the country. pure bliss.

*kiss*

Erika’s last blog post..Musings about One-itis (leading into a comment on the value of persistence)

Still, I think, especially for new guys, talking on the phone is much better from a learning perspective. Text messaging still has it’s place.

You know I love you and your advice, but … I don’t like talking on the phone, and I almost never pick it up. And I’ve had several guys succeed in wooing me by text message and email (and then had fireworks when we get in person because the connection has been established so deeply). Granted, these guys are on a par with Future, but still …

Personally, I don’t think the problem is text messaging versus phone. The problem is “blah blah blah” and “whoop de do ding dong.” The guy is not saying anything that the girl can connect with on an emotional level.

That’s my two cents, love.

xoxo,
Erika