From the New York Times today… “What do women want“, an article on female psychology, desire and arousal.

She pronounced, as well, “I consider myself a feminist.” Then she added, “But political correctness isn’t sexy at all.” For women, “being desired is the orgasm,” Meana said somewhat metaphorically — it is, in her vision, at once the thing craved and the spark of craving. About the dynamic at “Zumanity” between the audience and the acrobats, Meana said the women in the crowd gazed at the women onstage, excitedly imagining that their bodies were as desperately wanted as those of the performers.

Being Desired is the orgasm….

That statement, right there, sums up to me the crucial energy that produces sexual arousal in a woman – masculine desire. Not light touches, not dirty words, not soft kisses or dimmed lights. All those are ways you can express  your own sexual desire, but it is the desire itself which is the raw ingredient she requires.

This is the key to good sex, and good sex is the key to a good relationship. Make her know she drives you crazy. That,  a bit of stamina and some technique, and she’ll do anything for you. If you’re shy about your desire, afraid of expressing it, no fancy oil or silly vibrator will help you.

Expressing your desire doesn’t just make for good sex. It helps treat jealousy, insecurity, and all the games that come with those emotions. Women know that men think with our little brains, and they can trust our desire – it doesn’t lie. When she feels desired, she knows you’ll keep coming back, she knows your bond is strong. When you let your desire wane, then insecurity and jealousy start to rear their heads.

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