Alright,

So the shut up challenge was announced a bit over a week ago, and we’re starting to get some field reports in from guys at the attraction forums. As I expected, there’s a good mix of comedy, tragedy and success.

Basically Yes almost made me squirt milk out my nose with his opener.

Ok so I tried this one time last night as I was about to leave because I had just remembered, I literally gave no thought to it at all, saw the first cute girl (around an and started up. This is the best I remember it:

*girl is sitting on a bar stool at a karaoke bar with her friend who said nothing the entire time except for giggle a few times*

Me: “Abortion. You game?”

WTF!?!?

I knew from this point on we were dealing with comedy gold. The conclusion, as well, is priceless.

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Learn to pick up women in Detroit.

Savoy has been bugging me for ages to do a bootcamp in Detroit, which is the largest city in North America that hasn’t seen a Lovesystems Bootcamp yet.

Well, I had a spot come free in my schedule this Feb, so we decided to go for it the weekend of Feb 27th . We’re going to do the program in “South Detroit” (aka, Windsor, Ontario, Canada), so that students 19+ can attend the infield portion.

If there’s anyone from Detroit/Windsor that wants to help organize a free talk or something, I would be up for it. Email me at my Lovesystems address.

Also – Keep in mind that this bootcamp will be in Canada, and US citizens will need a passport to cross the border and attend.

So, our last podcast was a huge success, with almost 20,000 (!!) people tuning in to watch.

Well, it took us almost a month, but Cajun and I managed to get our butts in gear and make another podcast. This time, the topic is a big one – approach anxiety. Cajun has some awesome stuff to say about visualization in this one – you don’t want to miss it.

Remember – if you like this podcast, please vote it up on Sargenation and on Youtube!

Also! We’re now accepting pre-orders for Savoy’s Relationship Management DVDs which is going to be an amazing product. Right now, I’m waiting for my advance copy, and I’ll be sure to review it when it comes in.

In my last post, I talked about the “Silence Exercise”… a game I play where I try and be as silent as possible in set. This is actually a really useful exercise for improving your bodylanguage, confidence and conversational skills.

Anyway, I thought that I would start a little challenge to the guys on the The Attraction Forums and this blog: do the Silence Exercise on at least ONE set, every time you go out, and report back on this thread.

The person with the best Field Report will get a free 1/2 hour phone consultation from me. Bonus points for guys who post hilarious and ridiculous conversations.

What is the Silence Exercise?

I mention it in a previous post (link), but basically, the purpose of this exercise is to develop your non-verbal communication skills, and learn to handle awkward silences in conversations, by talking as LITTLE as possible in set, without getting blown out.

Basically, it goes like this: You open normally, or go in as a wingman. Once the set is engaged in the conversation (the “hook” point), you start playing. The goal is to talk as LITTLE as possible, without losing the set. You’ll probably be surprised to see how WELL you can do while hardly saying anything.

In order to communicate, you’re allowed (and encouraged) to do the following things.

- You can talk a bit – try and keep it to three word sentences or less. Cryptic and “deep” sounding stuff is great. Also, saying half a thought and trailing off works really well too “I noticed something….” etc.

- Focus on bodylanguage. Being locked in is really important for this exercise. Having an intense and thoughtful look on your face is also really important, as it makes you look mysterious and interesting, instead of just boring and quiet.

- Questions are OK. I know we’re usually against asking too many questions, but you can ask questions in this game. You need to ask open-ended questions though, because if you ask a closed-ended question, your conversation will die quick.

- Speak slowly and with emotion. Creating maximum impact out of every word is important.

- Use eye contact and facial expressions to try and prompt more talk from your targets. Instead of asking her a question, or making a comment on something she said, just try raising an eyebrow and giving a quizzical look. The more you can communicate without talking, the more you’re learning.

What you’ll find when you do this excercise is that you’ll realize how EASY it actually is to keep a conversation going when you have your bodylanguage and tonality down, and you’ll probably have some rediculous and entertaining conversations as well.

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Ever run out of things to say when you’re talking to a woman?

Let me guess, it happens all the time.

From my experience as someone who’s been teaching pickup bootcamps for a long time, this is one of the most common problems that guys have. At Lovesystems, we’ve devoted a lot of time and energy to helping guys with this problem, and to be honest, I can’t give you guys a solution to this problem in a single blog post (buy the Routines Manual for our best work on this), but here’s a great exercise that helps produce REAL results. If you practice this a few times, you’ll DRASTICALY reduce the number of times you get blown out of a set because you ran out of things to say – and there are no lines or routines involved, just cultivating your own natural game.

I actually discovered this exercise about four or five years ago, when I was helping out as an approach coach for RSD*. We were in Montreal, and back then, you could smoke pretty much everywhere in that city. I smoked at the time (I still kinda do), and the combination of first-hand smoke, second-hand smoke, and trying to game girls and give students advice over pumping loud dance music absolutely destroyed my voice.

By Saturday night, my voice was terrible, it literally sounded like the sound of blood gurgling out of an open wound, and women would recoil in horror when I spoke. I actually blew a student completely out of set just by saying “Hi! I’m Chris” with my creepy horror-movie serial killer voice. It was brutal.

But I wasn’t going to give up. I said to myself “fuck my serial killer voice, I’m going to game without talking”… so I actually started opening sets, and winging students without saying a word. I was shocked to find that my game really didn’t suffer that much at all by not talking.

I’m not going to say it was easy, that’s not the point of this exercise, but if your game is down, it’s probably easier than you think. If you’re the kind of guy who talks too much, and tries too hard, this will teach you the important skill of SHUTTING UP, which is something that most guys in the community don’t know well enough.

Now, when I was doing this, I literally couldn’t say a single word, because the mere sound of my bloody vocal folds flapping together scared the crap out of women, but when you’re doing this, you don’t need to be totally silent.

So here’s how the silence exercise works.

First thing you need to do is open well, and get past the “hook point”, where you’re starting to get some indicators of interest from the women. They need to be into you – just a *little bit* before this exercise will really work. This game works really well when you’re going in as a wingman.

Once they’re into you, lean back, get comfortable, and try to say as *little as possible*. Try and use everything *except* words to create interest and attraction. Anything more than a three-word sentence should be considered a failure. If you can stick to saying three words every minute or two, you’re doing pretty well. Pick your words well though, you can’t just say anything, you have to pick words with impact. And body language and delivery are crucial – you can’t play this game if you’re not coming off really chill.

One thing you’ll find if you do this game properly is that you can actually have a pretty long conversation with a woman without saying very much at all. If you just lean back, act mysterious and play along, you’ll often find that SHE starts blabbing away like crazy. Honestly, this game is really fun, if only to see how women react to the dumb, three-word sentences you produce. It’s amazing how long you can keep a conversation going with only three word responses.

Anyway, if you’re capable of opening and getting IOI’s, you should try this excercise, it’s not solid game – that’s not the point. But it forces you to practice something that a lot of guys are really weak at, it forces you to cultivate and harness the power of silence. And it’s pretty fun too.

Also, try this game in Hard Mode: You need to open with 3 words or less.

Or Nightmare Mode: You have to smoke cigarettes and yell until your voice sounds like throat cancer.

*I helped Real Social Dynamics on a couple bootcamps back before the Game, and before I started working for The Mystery Method Corp/Lovesystems.