awww, thanks for the personal response. I hope I get to meet you some time. Yes, I distinctly remember this article though I can’t pin a time or place. I remember it because it *really* resonated.

All help is self-help when it comes right down to it seriously why put it in a box? This guy Eckhart Tolle is tuned into something way bigger than any one of us individually. I prefer the label “spirituality”

did you see Tyler’s blog that mentions him?

though there’s a lot to be said for getting one’ s ass out there and doing things, lol

Anyway, I hope to go on the show soon, and hope I didn’t screw up the show too bad.

Erika,

You read this last year? I wrote it a long time ago, but I wasn’t sure if I’d published it… I looked around for it and couldn’t find it, so I thought I would post it again. You’re the first person who has noticed.

I’ve heard good things about Eckhart Tolle, I’ll have to check out his stuff when I have time. I generally stay away from self-help type books though…. it’s either fiction or getting my ass out there and doing things.

Barry said u had some rlly shitty reasons.

I really liked this article a year ago (?) when I first read it, and I still like it now. When you’re in your head (the video camera), you’re not present, and it’s harder to relate to people. And it never really helps to judge/criticize — yourself or anyone else. I like what you said about just paying attention to how people are responding.

Have you read A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle? I like what you said about putting yourself in challenging situations and blasting through. What I like to do is challenge my comfort zone a bit and then get very present with whatever discomfort I’m feeling until it dissipates. As I do that, the comfort zone is expanding. A New Earth talks a lot about presence and has lots of good examples of this.

Thanks for a really fun and helpful post.

http://www.awakeningfromthedream.blogspot.com

I was just thinking about this today… i cut someone off in my car.. and the guy flipped out on me like crazy… for a minute i felt really stupid and defensive.

Then I realized….

This guy will forget i ever existed in 2 minutes.

That is how I got over fear of rejection. The realization that the minute i walk away from the girl… she’s out of my life

and she wasn’t there before… so what am i missing now? Nothing!

Thoughtmagnet is right…

People are way too self absorbed to give you much thought.. and if anything acting self conscious will put more of a spotlight on you then if you just act natural and free flowing!