I saw on another site, little plug for Paul Janka, which mentions that Gawker hates on him, and has even made “false allegations of date rape”.
I was curious, so I looked around and found this post. As of yet, I have no reason to believe anything contained in this allegation is false at all, especially considering Janka’s dismissive reply (below this quote from Janka’s accuser).
He told me that we should either have sex or I should leave. I said I would leave. I started to stand up and he pulled me backwards and pinned me against the couch. I tried to push him off me, but couldn’t. He started touching my breasts and between my legs. I told him to let me go as I tried to deflect his hands. After a few minutes he let me up. I gathered my things.
As I was putting on my shoes he came over and grabbed my face, he squeezed until it hurt and I couldn’t move my head. The he shoved his tongue in my mouth. I pushed him off, went to the door, and was trying to unlock it when he came up behind me and wrapped one arm around my arms, making them immobile, and shoved the opposite hand down my pants. He tried to fucking finger me (unsuccessfully, I fought like a dog). I told him to stop. I struggled to get free. His only response was, “You’re turned on, aren’t you.” He wouldn’t let go. I managed to grab an umbrella propped against the wall next to me. I hit him and he backed off. I rushed out the door and I heard him laugh a little and call “bye” after me.
Now, to be fair to Paul Janka, this is just an allegation, and it’s not even an allegation of date rape, but rather an allegation of extreme creepyness and sexual assault – but whatever. I wouldn’t exactly call it “the attraction formula” though.
But what’s double fucked up is Paul Janka’s response, which isn’t even a denial. Paul Janka says:
“I’d say going on a date under false pretenses is pretty underhanded, wouldn’t you? I’m not interested in disputing her account, tit-for-tat. Suffice it to say she’s spun it to serve her interests.”
So Paul Janka doesn’t even deny what happened. He tries to paint himself as a victim. I know there is just a he-said, she-said story going on here, and there are some women out there in the world who are messed up and would make a false allegation like that, but Janka’s non-denial sets off my bullshit detectors.
Maybe I’m going off a bit half-cocked here, but seriously, the last thing the community needs right now is a narcissistic date rapist for a pickup instructor. I don’t care if he has game, or how much his Ebook pays in commissions. If those of us who are in this scene want to honestly believe that we’re a bunch of guys interested in “self improvement”, and who are doing a good thing by helping awkward guys get women, then we need to take a stand and speak up against this kind of bullshittery.
See also my previous, less indignant post on Paul Janka
Update: Check http://gawker.com/news/paul-janka/ for some stories that back up my take on this situation.
About Chris Shepherd
That gawker motherfucker is a piece of shit. All he does is talk shit and then he gets 80 comments where everyone agrees with him.
you validate rape claims based on some internet article? YOU are the dangerous one, 10magent.
oh, and another thing, to quote you: “last thing the community needs right now is a narcissistic date rapist”
community?????
last time i saw Savoy (who you are so proudly affiliated with) on Dr. Phil he said that you guys have NOTHING to do with the ‘seduction community’. I have it on tape.
so now you’re a community philantrophist all of a sudden?
you’re more full of shit than anyone else. anything you say is meant to serve your business. and you’ll even go as far as to accuse someone of date rape just because he’s opened a competing pickup school.
what a role model!
It’s not the claims that bother me, it’s the lack of a real denial of the claims that I have a problem with.
And as for serving my business – my business is served when I build a reputation for being smart, honest and unafraid to say what’s on my mind.
In this case, that means speaking out about a guy who I believe is a really bad role model, and makes us all look bad.
I couldnt agree more with Nate. 10magnet you are a diabolical and evil human being, to sit there and dismiss paul janka (a man you know nothing about). To me your no better then all of those women who dismiss the seduction community without even doing any kind of research on how it changes the lives of many men. Also in your last post you put paul janka down for only sleeping with 138 women in ten years. Well first of all if you even bothered to read any of his work, before opening your ignorant mouth, you would know that before pual janka slept with the majority of the woman in a two year spand in which he wasnt in a long term relationship. And you also say that he devotes his whole life to picking up women, well don’t you gues suggest guys go out 4 nights a week to meet women (scratching head), to me thats way more time then paul janka spends meeting women. I will also like to say at least paul janka has his own seduction techniques, while tenmagnet just uses mysterious’s and changes up a few words. I have lost all of my respect for you tenmagnet(even though I never did respect you). I just feel sorry for cajun who has to have his name associated with an imbecile like you for the rest of his days. Also I cant stand when pua don’t reveal how many women they have been with, and try to sell people a bullshit product. Any asshole can regurgitate the mystery method, but what most afc need is something different and proof of the results, and thats what paul janka brings to the table. So tenmagnet I hope one day you will get a life and feel competent enough not to bash a fellow pua, especially one that can school your ass like paul janka.
One last point, I think tenmagnet is just jealous of Paul Janka’s successs, I mean after all Paul Janka has had many tv appearances and is well known; on the other hand no one could tell the difference between tenmagnet and a whole in the wall. And notice how Paul Janka never bashes any other pua’s strategies let alone bash a pua’s personal charecteristics. This is because he has class unlike the dispicable tenmagnet
10magnet you are a diabolical and evil human being, to sit there and dismiss paul janka (a man you know nothing about).
Love it!
Lol
Cajun Rocked on Keys to Vip though.
What is your the best openner?
you can email me the answer I won’t find this blog later.lol
Hey matt and nate,
whats with all the flaming? In that long paragraph, you’ve just showed us to be
1) completely ignorant
2) stupid
3) irrelevant
I can see what tenmag is doing here. Its not some personal atack on janka but rather a warning that all of us that study dating science should be aware of – a fake guru
Why should someone have to deny rape claims to make the claims not true? I’d agree that the dude is creepy and that his response was flippant. But my experience tells me that trying to deny false accusations gives them legs.
Wow this place is worst than Thundercats with all its bs, i’m out.
WTF is this Thoughtmagnet anyhow and how is this news worthy to take a small snipit of hearsay on a website like Gawker then add your own hearsay and in treat all of it with passion as if you were there or even have a say in it.. wow.. this website is pure crap and basically just reposting stuff and looking for hits.. wow congrats on your webpage full of sh*t!
wahahaha that Paul Janka is a character no doubt, kinda like the Ron Burgundy of pick up… thanks for posting this … the Dr Phil interview was hilarious and the date rape thing haha I cant wait to hear Paul Janka’s methods to seducing trannies in prison.. The 16 page manifesto how to gape-rape-and-escape… haha excellente
Matt and Nate stop Defending Paul Janka life a bunch Loser FANBOYS! He doesn’t need defending. He wouldn’t even care. After you guys stop sucking Paul Janka cock (guru worship, social robot shit!) then you’ll understanding he is just telling it like it is at least from his perspective. Okay he is somewhat bashing Paul but not as competitor like (e.g. Ross Jeffries Loser Negative Bashing Comments on variety of post in the internet).
He’s just calling it and pointing it as it if you didn’t get then you’re an idiot!
This is what i hate about the community!
STUPID POLITICS! LOYAL AFFILIATION IN ONE COMPANY! BLAH! FRIGGIN BLAH!
Open your eyes! That’s all!
P.S.
I guess Paul Janka is a kinda creep. Remember when he took that brunette girl and he started stroking his shit when she came into his room! Yeah my bullshit detector is up to right now. Fuck man I love his Day Game Product! 10Mag i can’t believe you drop this bomb like taking a shit. Anyway love his product but certainly NOT HIM!
Lesson for today:
DON’T BE A FUCKIN “CREEP!”
stop worrying about others and focus on your own business. what are you a girl?
who are you people to say that what Paul is doing is wrong. The main point of this is for men who don’t have any idea how to pick up women. Doesn’t anybody know how shy most men are to walk up to a women. Most of the women take advantage of the guy and they got whatever they want. Plus if a women asked a a shy man out he would say yes in a minute. If shy men asked a women out it would take while before that happens. It also doesn’t matter what the men’s intentions are, it only matters what the women thinks and if she likes the guy then they should go out.
You’re a fuckin’ hater.
Well i guess this guy has some female characteristic… if you can do better then shut up and show us some… only coward people put others down to raise their own value…
well to me paul janka is the only one who has given real statistics of his success.. which makes him far better than anyone. He can get relationships if he wants which makes him better than any other “PUA” cus only neil strauss seems to have managed to get a girlfriend out of all this. He has proved on national tv that he can also get other people to succeed with that nardeep guy. Also he has an unbreakable calm confidence and can handle himself on national tv very well. I have yet to see anyone be successful with mysterys bullshit and mystery himself as analytical as he is hasnt given any indication to how successful he is.
I dunno, I’m just glad I don’t bother reading these forums anymore. I guess everyone’s trying to repackage themselves into Sensitive New Age Prince Charmings.
Good luck with that.
Janka, at least, takes a simple, direct approach. I can’t tell you how repugnant your clever little dating formulas are in comparison.
Everytime you critic someone, you could have been talking to some nice girls on the street… So this website is just an excuse…
The best part about Pauls stuff. He does not encourage you to change your name from a nice Chris to TENMAGNET
I dont know if its creepy or insecure.
Why cant I tell my real name to a girl? Is it not manipulative OMG or my mother called me TENMAGANET when I was born but didnt tell me till I knew about the game
I guess the only thing a girl can do is never trust men on the first date not even on the second date, it might end up this way and you the victim would be the suspect crazy thing about people is that they have their freedom to choose why not use it.
I think the guy is just the community’s latest favorite punching bag. But who really knows what the truth is?
i’m a 34-year-old woman and I just stumbled on this site after randomly listening to a paul janka podcast and thinking that he sounded like a complete douchebag. I would run as fast as I could in the other direction the minute he opened his mouth to hit on me. So a word of advice to all you “seduction community” dudes (whatever the fuck THAT is), if you think this guy has anything whatsoever to teach you about getting laid, you are dead wrong. I applaud whoever wrote this blog as he seems to actually have a heart, soul and brain, unlike paul janka and his mindless limp-dick followers. thank you, goodnight, i’m gonna go screw my boyfriend.
Coming from a girl, i agree with you tenmagnet. It seems the allegation is totally true. I could see Paul doing this even before I read it on here.
This is pretty funny – back in 1996 I bought Janka at a fundraising ‘dating’ auction at Harvard because I liked his face. My intention was sex – there are alpha women out there too! He was awful in bed – had no clue how to please a woman. I suppose few college boys do. But he was extremely emotionally removed, almost ghostlike, throughout our session. I’ll never forget what he said when he snapped the condom off at the end, “Well at least we know I’m not gay.” It was such a strange remark – I remember asking him what that meant and he said that he meant he loves women and loves sex. I thought that was hilarious and advised him to brush up on his skills if he actually wanted to please a girl. The interesting thing is that he contacted me 6 years later – and asked me to visit him in New York. I took him up on the offer, mostly curious to see if he’d improved at all. He’d learned a few new tricks but was just as dead in the eyes as before, perhaps even chillier than when we had met. I thought it was weird that he didn’t want me to touch myself. Super controlling and needy, as in he needed to be the center of attention the whole time. And he said the EXACT same thing at the end about not being gay! Before I was done dressing he was on the phone calling another girl to see if she could come over. It’s all just elaborate overcompensation for an inability to feel emotionally connected. So yeah, from what I know of him, the rape story rings true. I feel sorry for his girlfriend!