This was a question asked on the forum, and I thought I would repost it here.

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Neil Strauss mentioned it in his book called “The Game”.
I always thought it wasn’t true, and I would never become one…

But now I am a social robot. I’m obsessed with game tactics, language patterns and body language. In every conversation I have with people, I will look for IOI’s, try to DHV my value and be very aware of my body language. I can’t think about anything else then being alpha, making up DHV stories and new neg’s. I am always analyzing other people, like they aren’t people anymore, but study objects.

And I’m not the only one. For most guys this isn’t a hobby anymore. It’s life. And when game becomes life, it becomes dangerous. You’ll become good at it, but you have to pay a price for that. Especially the pua’s who started playing the game in their teens. They haven’t experienced all the things in life as an AFC… And I think that is very imported.

And that’s why I decided to quit the community. I will live my life like an AFC. Maybe I won’t fuck every girl on campus, but I will be social in a normal way so I can start a family with someone I really love. Not some random HB10 I analyzed and negged, just to get her attracted to me…

Sounds like you’re taking this too far. Good for you for recognizing it, and taking a step back.

I think one of the mistakes that a lot of guys like yourself make is that they treat the stuff we teach as game itself, and not as a training method to improve your game. If you treat it as a training method, then dropping “game” is really just taking the training wheels off your REAL game.

If you’ve done things right while you were in the community, you’re now more outgoing, confident and socially intelligent than you were before. Women and sex are no longer mysterious and intimidating, and you’ve been surprised at least a few times by how *easy* it actually is to hook up sometimes. Don’t forget that – that’s what your training and hard work earned you.

Now, if you go into your everyday life, and choose to drop all the stuff that you used to practice, don’t fall into your old habits. Take advantage of your confidence…. listen to the intuition that your social intelligence gives you, and when a woman is into you, do what comes naturally, and don’t doubt yourself.

You’ll probably be surprised by how well it goes. But when things go well, don’t rush to the conclusion that dropping the community’s advice is the reason you got better, rather, recognize that the community’s advice got you to where you are today, and now you’ve moved past it.

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Good luck.