Ok, me giving a shit in grad school has officially lasted 3 weeks, and now I’m free. I got here thinking that grad school would be more serious than undergrad, but I was wrong.
Not giving a shit has freed me, I feel at ease once again.
Now, this doesn’t mean that I’m not going to work hard and do what it takes to graduate, but I’m confident that I can do well without stressing.
This is the same realization that I came to a few months ago with respect to teaching pickup. For a long time, I was *really* stressed during the in-field portion. Think about it – not only do I have to pick up, but I have to pick up with a dozen guys watching, and judging everything I do. And getting blown out is NOT an option.
So naturally, I was stressed. And as we all know, being stressed or uptight is KILLER on your game. So I had to psych myself up a LOT before every in field portion, and after a few warm-up sets, my game would be tight.
Well, this summer, I finally let go of that stress. I realized that every weekend I would worry that I wasn’t good enough, that I would get blown out and my game would suck, and every weekend I kick ass and get a dozen guys telling me my game is amazing. I needed to let go of that anxiety. I needed to not give a shit.
So I started going out with the attitude that “I’m fucking Tenmagnet, and I rule, and there’s no fucking way I’m not going to blow shit up tonight” and guess what, I started kicking even MORE ass, and enjoying it too! Bootcamps became WAY more enjoyable, and that vibe rubbed off on the students, the girls and the other instructors.
Not giving a shit – the key to success 
5 responses so far ↓
1 paracal // Sep 27, 2007 at 3:22 am
just a tiny piece, but it’s making huge waves…
there is so much more energy & resources left in your head after you’ve started to not care anymore. that’s why your game gets even better although it’s already mad tight.
the rsd guys have a lot to talk about that topic, because it’s really crucial to your game. if it even accelerates tenmagnet’s game already being one of the best pua’s out there, what can it do to a newbie struggling with all those anxieties in field and being in the wrong head space?
this little piece can’t be emphasized enough!
-paracal
2 Anonymous // Sep 28, 2007 at 12:20 am
Hey man that’s kool how you moved to Van City. That’s where I go to school. I’m wondering how long you’ve been playing guitar. I actually just set a little music studio at my place. I got a nice vs-1880 from roland and the whole drums, synths, piano etc… Also, you sure the bootcamp is October 5 in Vancouver cause it says the 12th on the Mystery Method site?
3 Anonymous // Sep 29, 2007 at 1:16 pm
this is the only reason why alcohol is so popular! it makes you care less about other people’s thoughts.
4 Tenmagnet // Sep 30, 2007 at 8:49 pm
Thanks for the heads up on the wrong date. The Vancouver program is on the 12th to 14th. I’ve been playing guitar for about 10 years now…
5 K-Loc // Jul 31, 2009 at 9:59 am
I actually have to psych myself up like that at times(lol). I have a little note pad in my palm treo that I read before I go sarging(on bad days) and its goes like this,”Im the fucking man,the alpha,the top dog…!” Oh course I dont feel like that,but it pumps me up(lol).
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