Dealing with Dudes
I am using the Mystery Method for some months and got very good results with girls. My only problem are men in mixed sets and men in general. I can not build up any connection to them. Still, it would be good to be leader of the men. How do you lead them or at least get those guys to listen to you?
“Have the girls and the guys will follow.” Unfortunately not…
First of all, you have that last quote backwards. Have the *GUYS* and the girls will follow – that’s the way you play the game.
The good thing is, if you focus most of your attention on the guys in the beginning of the interaction, most guys (esp. in the US) are going to be cool dudes. Remember to always ask “how do you guys know one another” – this helps you figure out the dynamic. Most of the time it’s “we’re friends from work”, or “we just met”. Very rarely are they BF and GF.
You can talk to guys about sports or cars or videogames or whatever you like. Also, they LOVE it when you neg the girls they’re with (calibrated, of course). Add in a little bit of back-slapping and kino, and you’ve usually won them over.
Now you can focus on the girls…
If you act and behave normal, treat those guys as your male friends (you do have some, right?), then mixed sets are the easiest to open & hook!
July 26th, 2007 at 1:42 pmHi there!
August 8th, 2007 at 10:10 amGood luck for your graduation and your future.